"I can still remember a time when one's value was defined by experience and ability." (Valerie Harper)
On the way to the beach Sunday, I stopped at Hanapepe Library to see what books were left on the free outdoor shelf. Waiting for a home was an ex-library copy of Today I Am A Ma'am by actress Valerie Harper (who channeled "Rhoda" for nine years).
Even though it's written for older women, I decided to take a look (as an older man) to see if I might learn something. I did. The trick to aging is deciding if you want to get old or older. There's a difference.
If you're tired of youth obsession and want a quick fix, Today I Am A Ma'am: And Other Musings on Life, Beauty, and Growing Older offers the remedy. There are laughs along the way (but watch those facial lines).
Valerie Harper wrote this book when she was turning sixty. She's now seventy and was just nominated for a Tony Award this week. At the end of the book Ms. Harper discusses her golden rules which include, "overdo it." I think she sets a fine example of just that.
With good humor Ms. Harper talks about women's fashion, diets, hot wax treatments and more. She asks questions along the way like the following:
"Why is a woman's important transition called MEN-opause? Are we pausing from men?"
In the end it's finding peace and acceptance with self. Each stage in life has something to offer. What's your philosophy on getting older?
Rob's Rating: 3/5 "Good"
Today I Am A Ma'am by Valerie Harper. Harper Collins. 2001. 155 pages. ISBN: 0060199296